Jun 28 2009
Could this really be restoration?
WOW! WOW! WOW! I just had the most amazing conversation with my mother and father. Yes, you are reading that correctly…my MOTHER and my FATHER whom I’ve been in off and on contact with for the last 5 years (more off then on).
Let me back up just a little. About 2 months ago I decided to start writing to them and try to articulate to them as best I could where I was at in this relationship and what I felt needed to be addressed. They both sent me a letter this past week saying exactly what I needed to hear…they are open to discuss whatever I need to and want very much to help me heal from the past. While I was on the phone with them tonight I was able to express some of the pain I’ve been dealing with these past 5 years and they both handled it so well.
I have to tell you, I feel a little numb right now. I think I’m in a little bit of shock. I really did not expect that I would ever get to this point with either of them. I felt that they may be stuck in their ways of understanding and would find it difficult to move forward in new understanding. Their letters this week told me otherwise and the phone conversation I just had with them confirmed that. We are definitely on a new path of restoration and if feels incredible. I’m so excited for what the future holds for my relationship with them. I will definitely keep you posted! Woohoo!
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How exciting for you! Really, that is the stuff that dreams are made of. I always had the thought with my own mother of being able to have those sorts of conversations. Good is so good
Thank you so much Sunny! I really appreciate you being able to be happy for me when this is such a void in your own life. God is good, yes! It is only because of Him that I am able to walk this path with my parents. There is still a lot of work ahead, I’m certainly not blind to that. I have to say that there is a heaviness that is gone now and for that I am very, very grateful! Thank you, again, Sunny for your encouragement and support!
Karen, how wonderful! Will keep you in my prayers. Very ironic. I just broke off with my father after years of trying. But I am so happy for you and I am so glad your heaviness is gone. God bless.
Thank you for your prayers, Colleenmae. I’m so very sorry to hear that you had to break it off with your father. I do understand that very well. I wish I could tell you what it was that changed my parents understanding and how they know now, what they need to do. I guess that’s why I do feel to proceed with caution until more is revealed.
I don’t know if this will help you but while I was pretty much estranged from my parents it helped me to remember that part of the purpose I was estranged was to break the cycle of dysfunction in our relationship. Dysfunction is a breeding ground for abuse and it needed to stop. You are in my prayers as well!
Karenp, Yes, those words do help me. Breaking the cycle was definitely needed. Thanks so much.